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37 Parenting Tips Every New Mom Needs

37 Parenting Tips Every New Mom Needs

New mom? Here are 37 helpful nuggets of wisdom from our advisors and other Parents insiders that are sure to come in handy.By David SparrowP

Becoming a parent can be a bit overwhelming, especially when advice pours in from all sides. So we’ve compiled this handy guide of quick tips from in-the-know parents and experts to get you started, and give you the confidence you need to embrace your new role.

1. Live in the now. You hereby have permission to stop worrying about your checklist—doing the laundry, pumping, buying diapers—and learn to be present with your baby. Enjoy your precious moments together. —Wayne Fleisig, Ph.D.

2. Chill out about toddler meals. Expect odd food habits. Offer a variety. Don’t push, don’t panic. They’ll eat when they’re hungry. —Connie Diekman, R.D., Washington University in St. Louis

3. Stick to an early bedtime. Your child will get the sleep he needs, and you’ll get to recharge your batteries. —Jodi Mindell, Ph.D., author of Sleeping Through the Night

4. Say no. The better you get at turning down requests that aren’t in your child’s best interest, the fewer times you’ll need to do so. You can say no once in the supermarket when your child asks to buy a carton of ice cream, or you can say it every night once that carton is sitting in your freezer at home. —David Ludwig, M.D., Ph.D., author of Ending the Food Fight

5. Create mini traditions. Hang balloons around the kitchen table the night before your child’s birthday so she wakes up to a special day. Make a funny noise when it’s just you and your kids in an elevator. Create a handshake that only they know—and save it for big moments. —Harley A. Rotbart, M.D., author of No Regrets Parenting

6. Be ready for sick days. Stock up on rehydration drinks like Pedialyte, Gatorade, or Vitamin Water so you don’t have to run to the store in the middle of the night when your little one is vomiting. —Wendy Hunter, M.D., Rady Children’s Hospital, University of California, San Diego

7. Know your kid. Each child is a unique combination of strengths and challenges. Try to tailor your response to fit the kid in front of you. —Eileen Kennedy-Moore, Ph.D., author of Smart Parenting for Smart Kids

8. Find your crew. Identify the people you can call when you need to vent—friends who’ll give their opinion when you ask for it and keep their mouth shut when you don’t, and who would drop anything to be there for you and your family (and vice versa). Love them hard and thank them often. —Lacey Dunkin, single mom of six

9. Remember you’re a role model. Make being a mom look appealing to your kid so she’ll want to have children and you can be a grandparent one day. If you’re always stressed, pouty, or fussing, she won’t be inspired to become a parent herself. —Wendy Mogel, Ph.D., author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee

10. Let your partner take over. He’s all in, so encourage him to be in charge of bathing, reading, or tummy time (or all three). They’re great bonding activities—and an opportunity for you to take a breather. —David L. Hill, M.D., author of Dad to Dad: Parenting Like a Pro

11. Talk about money decisions. When you buy a brand of cheese because it’s less expensive (and just as good) or opt to pass on a purse you like “until it’s on sale,” explain your thinking to your kid. —Farnoosh Torabi, mom of two and host of the So Money podcast

12. Read to your child every single day. It helps build imagination and is time well spent. —Christine Hohlbaum, mom of two and author of The Power of Slow

13. Go small with big changes. Bottle to sippy cup? Crib to bed? Of course you want these transitions to go smoothly and quickly, but that can be overwhelming to your little one. Let him play with the new cup, or sit and read together in the new bed first. Once he’s used to the new sensory experiences, you can make the switch official. —Harold S. Koplewicz, M.D., president of the Child Mind Institute

14. Help your baby fall asleep on her own. Feed her at the start of your bedtime routine. After a bath, books, and cuddling, put her down while she’s drowsy but still awake. If you feed or rock her to sleep, she’ll always need your help to nod off. —Dr. Mindell

15. Establish chores. Have your kids pitch in at home by emptying trash cans, making their bed, setting the table, and putting toys away. Helping out with the household tasks builds self-esteem because you trust them to do the job. —Martin R. Eichelberger, M.D., Safe Kids Worldwide, Children’s National Medical Center

16. Trust your instincts. Even if you can’t diagnose what’s wrong when your child doesn’t feel well, your gut will tell you that he needs to be checked out. —Ari Brown, M.D., author of Baby 411

17. Don’t become the butler. Your children are hardwired for competence. Get them in the habit of hanging their jacket in the closet and putting their dirty clothing in the hamper at an early age, so you don’t have to. —Dr. Mogel

18. When you’re wrong, own it. If you goof up with your child (or your partner), apologize. This will teach your kids that it’s okay to make a mistake as long as you acknowledge it and say you’re sorry. —Alice Domar, Ph.D., author of Finding Calm for the Expectant Mom

19. Give yourself time-outs. When you’re feeling angry, you’re less likely to respond to your child in a helpful way. You don’t have to react instantly. Taking a brief break helps you settle down and think things through. —Dr. Kennedy-Moore

20. Nudge sibling harmony. At dinner, have each child take turns saying what he enjoyed about his brother or sister that day. This helps kids look for the positives in their siblings rather than the negatives. —Lacey Dunkin

21. Open windows from the top. Eliminate the risk of your child falling by keeping them closed and locked on the bottom. And don’t tempt her to climb by placing low furniture underneath. —Dr. Hunter

22. Like a Boy Scout, be prepared. Never leave the house without at least one change of clothes for each young child. —Dr. Hill

23. Beware of the humblebrag parent. When acquaintances boast about their brilliant or supertalented child, relax. Chances are they’re exaggerating or lying. —Dr. Mogel

24. Tell “age stories.” At bedtime, have your child pick a number smaller than your current age. Then tell her about something interesting that happened to you at that age. —Dale McGowan, dad of three and author of Raising Freethinkers

25. Put down your phone. When you’re with your kids, that call/text/e-mail can wait. They know when you’re not paying attention. —David Fassler, M.D., author of Help Me, I’m Sad: Recognizing, Treating, and Preventing Childhood and Adolescent Depression

26. Be without a ceiling. Try to get outside together for at least a few minutes every single day and move under the sky. It’s a chance to escape screens and sedentary activities, and establish a rain-or-shine ritual that will benefit your child for life. —Wendy Sue Swanson, M.D., author of Mama Doc Medicine: Finding Calm and Confidence in Parenting

27. Act silly. Life can be too serious. Let your kids see you laugh, make funny faces, and chase them around the house saying, “I’m gonna get you!” —Dr. Domar

28. Walk instead of drive. Use your legs for short errands and nearby playdates. As you stroll with your child, talk, play “I spy,” or hop over cracks in the sidewalk together. —Dr. Rotbart

29. Be a parent, not a pal. Your job isn’t to be popular. Your kids may not always like you in the moment. But deep down they’ll always love you for setting clear expectations. —Dr. Eichelberger

30. Make math more fun. Take every opportunity to play with numbers, sizes, and shapes. Count the oranges and apples as you put them into the bag at the grocery store. Ask your child which cereal box is the tallest. Point out the circle in the clock and the rectangle in the window. —Deborah Stipek, Ph.D., author of Motivated Minds: Raising Children to Love Learning

31. Stay consistent with your rules. But first, make sure they’re fair. —Dr. Domar

32. Just dance. When you’re talked out and tired out from endless demands, turn on some music and just shake off the day. It’s hard not to smile when you’re letting loose (and watching your kids dance). —Lacey Dunkin

33. Answer the endless “why” questions. This is easier said than done, but young kids are curious about everything in their world. If you stop responding to their queries, they may stop asking. —Raquel D’Apice, founder of The Ugly Volvo blog

34. Back up your photos and videos. You don’t want to lose irreplaceable digital memories. Invest in a backup hard drive or a cloud service. —Darshak Sanghavi, M.D., author of A Map of the Child

35. Show your kid how to greet people. Teach your child to make eye contact, smile, and greet someone new in various settings. Then have her try it out. You only get one chance to make a first impression. —Faye de Muyshondt, mom of two and 32 founder of Socialsklz 🙂 for Success

36. Spotlight gratitude. Coin the term BPOD (best part of day) and review it nightly. Reflecting on the good stuff is a lovely practice that fosters happiness and optimism. —Dr. Swanson

37. Go ahead and gush. Let your child know—through your actions and your words—how much you love him and what you think is special about him. —Dr. FleisigBy David SparrowParents Magazine

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Newborn Life: When Parenthood Isn’t What You Expected

Newborn Life: When Parenthood Isn’t What You Expected

When Kaylie Jones* became a mom she was surprised by a lot of things. There was the sheer exhaustion, the never-ending laundry, and the baby that never seemed to settle into any of the carriers or bouncers she had so carefully registered for. “When my daughter was a newborn, I was so totally caught off guard by how hard and unfamiliar everything felt,” says Jones.

For most new moms, early parenthood comes with lots of feelings and a lot of learning. When all that learning and all those feelings are hard though, and the rosy picture of parenthood you imagined before your baby arrived seems to shatter before your eyes, it can be really hard to figure out how you’re going to move forward as a mom and what you need to do to make things begin to feel a little more normal.

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If you’re a new mom who’s struggling to figure out how to reconcile your pre-baby ideas about what parenthood would be like and what parenthood is actually like, check out the tips below to help you start to get settled.

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This is why Parents are not sleeping

This Is Why Parents Aren’t Sleeping

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Welcome to parenthood, hope you hate sleeping. We get the least amount of sleep and need it most, and yet we still have a hard time falling and staying asleep every night.

Even on the rare nights that my kids go to bed at a decent hour and don’t crawl into bed with me, I can’t sleep because I just can’t get my brain to shut down. Here are the reasons I toss and turn until early hours of the morning:

1. Anxiety

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“Did I say the wrong thing at the play date today? Maybe I shouldn’t have said anything. Why do I always do this? I wonder if she’s mad at me. Maybe I should text her. But it’s midnight and normal people are sleeping. But what if I forget to text her tomorrow? I should set a reminder…”

This is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the way anxiety makes me dissect and over-analyze every single interaction. So at the end of the day, my brain finds ways to make me believe I’m in the wrong (more specifically, that I’m an idiot) for all the things I did and said, whether it happened today or 20 years ago. It’s super fun.

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Expert Parent Opinions by Professionals

Expert Parent Opinions by Professionals

Moms Questions and Answers, Expert opinions by professionals and well renowned web sites. Below we will have topics about moms  questions and answers for moms. Ranging from Colic to what to expect at different stages of pregnancy and after pregnancy.

 

We will also discuss anti natal issues and health issues such as the baby sleeping and getting into a routine.

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